Mother Mary-Mary Magdalene and The Beans and the M&Ms
This is primarily to women, but some of you men might relate and some of you men need to hear this. But mostly you women need to understand this. Quit obsessing about your body weight. Quit belittling yourselves and your sisters. Quit judging humans by the weight on their body. Why is this any different than judging someone by the color of their skin? There is systemic racism in this country, this world. AND there is systemic body shaming in this world. It is a kind of subtler hate. It is an accepted hate. It is easy to make fun of humans who have some extra weight and assume that they are lazy, they are bad, they eat too much. Perhaps there is MORE to their story. Just like all humans. There is ALWAYS MORE to the story.
Humans are so judgmental. Humans know that it is not okay to be racist. They know it is not okay to hate women. It is now not okay to hate gay people. They know it is not really okay to hate at all. But there is an insidious and deep hate toward humans who are big. It is as though all the hate stored up in their bodies is now directed towards big humans. We’ll say fat.
What does this say about the human race? So much body shaming. So much hatred. Is this now accepted? WE want to say NO. Just stop. Please let all the love in your hearts flow and encompass all humans. BUT you must start with yourself. When you feel a judgment come up, can you visualize it and see where it is coming from? Is this really a judgment on yourself?
Why is the body shaming so prevalent in the world? Why is it SO IMPORTANT to be thin? Thin does not equal healthy. Why is it not okay to show an appetite if you are a larger person? Why is this such a taboo in this society? And so often a larger person feels the shame and despair already and then feels it from the humans around them. Why bother? Why live?
This is a topic near and dear to Elizabeth as she comes to terms with her own body shaming of herself. Her own judging of others. Her own knowing that there may be something wrong with her if she cannot seem to get over her body shaming of herself. She keeps working at it. AND it has not quite clicked yet. She has tried to lose the menopausal weight and nothing impacts it. One of her last doctor visits was with a woman who was overweight and when she weighed Elizabeth, she told her to lose at least a few pounds because she was in the “obese” category. It was not “do you exercise?” “Do you eat healthy?” NO! It was all about the numbers on the scale. And there are studies to show that these numbers may be wrong.
So, young and old warriors, be kind to yourself. Be kind to yourself FIRST. Examine your judgments. Examine your internal strivings. Do you REALLY think you need to lose weight or do you just need to LOVE yourself completely, unconditionally and with absolute joy and passion?
One last word, although this may come up again. Love your life. Enjoy your life. BE in JOY! AND for many that may include eating delicious foods. Taking a little walk in nature every day. Dancing. Taking a nap. Reading in the bathtub. Watching the news, or not. Reading a fun book. Reading a history book. Hanging with your puppy. Hanging with your honey. And it all comes down to BEING with yourself. YOU, the most wondrous, beautiful YOU. From where we are, we see you as radiant, beautiful beings. You may have a body, but we don’t see that. The more you love yourself, the more you shine. The more you love yourself the more you love ALL. Love yourselves EXACTLY as you are right NOW.